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Eternal bliss from the deepest of the heart and respect is obtained,
When a strength less elder
gets help without being asked for...
Only those would understand it better who have experienced the change of
an active, healthy and full of life kind of body to a weak, dependent, helpless
and bed ridden one.
Do you have such an elder member at your home ?
Then let me share some
small yet essential tips about an Elder Care.
(1) If the
outfit of an elderly person is easy to wear and remove, loose, which have
easier buttons, elastic, strings, Velcro and zips then it becomes comfortable
for that elderly person and the care taker both.
(3) Medicines, Napkins,
Potable water, specs, charger, books, news papers or other objects of likings
should be kept handy and easy to access.
(4) Cleanliness
must be maintained of their dentures, bed sheet etc. This is really the primary
measure against any possibility of an infection.
(5) You would
have come across many incidents where people slip inside the bathroom. To avoid
such an accident in the home one can keep an easy stopper a call bell can also
be useful there. To sit there should be a box stool and to get up there should
be an arrangement of the side handles. So that the support can be taken and
getting up becomes easy.
(6) Allow them
to do the tasks they love to do. “You
can’t do it” must never be spoken to them. Trust and respect them. Occasionally
you can invite their loved ones. Respect their past memories. Like it’s shown
in that Bollywood movie ‘Munna Bhai M.B.B.S.” you can play the games of their
liking let those be childish ones ...so what? That will keep them happy and
thus healthy. “Rani toh... ?..
Papa ni...” (‘Queen only belongs to the father’ ...in the game of carom).
If you are taking them to watch a movie in a theater, in a music concert, to watch a play or on a picnic with the family and if you are capable financially you can certainly equip them with an adult diaper so that there is no moment of an embarrassment for them and they can again enjoy the moments with you as if they were young again with the self respect and thus they can gather the maximum of the happiness.
These smallest gestures will give them the sense of security, satisfaction and
peace.
Many times due to the hush hush
of the life, office pressures young kids and their spouse forget that those
elders who sacrificed their own happiness for them, who made them reach to
these heights and who loved them unselfishly are running towards the SUN SET of
their life...just like a candle that melts gradually. Careful...! Make sure
that by any thought- word or behaviour, out of any anxiety or excitement or
under the effects of the circumstances of your occupations, they must never
ever get hurt or made to run here and there after you.
The tsunami of your
youth must not punish the shores of the seas which are otherwise at peace ! That will be an injustice to them...
...But yes... having read the above few lines one also mustn’t
say “I already told them, leave us alone...you stay here only...don’t accompany us every where.” Consider them just
like your kids only, they don’t need anything else but the happy surrounding.
(7) Many a times
they are left with almost No Money. They are often told “ask, when needed”.
Instead one must make an arrangement for their financial freedom.
(8) To an extent
the kids and the elders both have similarities. They may feel the desire to
taste new recipes, pamper the taste buds but stomach, digestive system may not
cooperate. It may ask for some hard work but in small quantities one can
certainly offer them those tasty yet easy to digest dishes. There are the tons
of videos available on the YouTube to guide about the healthy and tasty
recipes.
(9) There are
some specific issues that require an attention when there is a single Gent
elder. Management of grown nails and beard, unwanted hair, broken spectacles,
wetting bed, forgetting things or dependency and loneliness may make them obstinate
or even cry. Thus an old age may create disappointments. In such circumstances
patience is an only key for the care takers. Never forget in our childhood they
too tolerated us with the patience and even today they might be tolerating the
difference of the nature and opinions, who knows!
(10) Some elders
have a habit to repeatedly ask same questions and the other person may get
irate too. That may turn out into a conflict as well at times. Again the
solution lies in same mantra ‘calmness and patience’. To protect them from the
insecurities in their aging both the elder and the young ones must develop an
understanding.
(11) There is a child
inside of every heart. Especially in the old age the concealed emotions emerge out.
For an example before the natural teeth fell apart usually there is an intense
desire of ‘taste’ emerges. After getting the dentures fit the person may not be
able to accept the physical changes. Cataract, losing teeth or impaired hearing
abilities can create a lot of confusions. Although these are the universal
facts of the life but the heart doesn’t accept the reality.
Moreover during the young age that elderly
person might have given up so many possibilities due to financial circumstances
for their parents or kids. Like taste, hobbies, some ‘only me time’ opportunities,
seeing the world without responsibilities and when such a person gets older the
dissatisfaction shows its effects on the nature. Not the old age but the
dependency harasses the person.
That is the reason why handy snacks and
chocolate – candies can be handy edibles to satisfy the elders during short
breaks of the day.
(12) Setting up a ‘Speed Dial’ number on the mobile
phone or training them about how to use group messaging system is also an
essential in today’s era so that a few family members can be informed quickly
when the elder one is in the need of any help. With the availability of Whats
App, Telegram , Facebook and other
messengers it has become easier to communicate in 1-to-many fashion. Thus try
to provide your senior member a good smart phone and they are taught also to
use it. Just like how they would have taught you A...B...C...D... you too need
to teach them the latest tech gadget – Smart Phone with patience.
Teach them how to
use YouTube, Facebook, NEWS apps, Music apps etc. That will not only keep them
engaged but also help their aging process to slow down. Even the science
suggests that an aging brain must be engaged in learning something new to get
some exercise and thus remain effectively functioning for longer.
If you are not in
any financial bottle-necks you can arrange for a separate T.V. for them which
may prevent many conflicts at home before the occurance.
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If you are more affluent
you may also place an Indoor Security Camera or CCTV Camera so that you can
have an eye from any corner of the world and they also feel secured.
(13) Due to insecurities of the life they may say many
good or bad things at times. The care taker has to understand this with utmost
love so that there is no harsh reaction during such events. In those times they
need to be handled as if they were kids. This will bring peace to them and
their spoken words will allow them to vent up.
(14) It’s considered auspicious to have the elders
present in the family gatherings, events and celebrations but that must happen
only as per their free will. For your social prestige or any other motive they
must not be forced to attend every event. Similarly the household where there
is an elder or a kid less than 3 years of age must NOT BE VISITED without prior
appointment, how much closer they are.
(15) Elders must have an updated government Identity Document. There must be a diary maintained having the record of the details of moles, body marks, birth marks etc. Or any specific medical condition if any. There are some Smart Pendants also available in the market that allow their kids residing far across to have an eye on their seniors right on their smart phones. This gadget is more useful for the caretakers or the kids of an elderly person with the medical condition of an Alzheimer.
Torch is also a very handy gadget for elders especially when their weakened bladder makes them run during the midnight or when a shining tiny object or jewel or a Medicinal Tablet has got misplaced.
Those elders who either due to an age or due to lack of strength or due to any disease have blurred or impaired speech can be provided a Magic Slate so that they can communicate by writing. Such a slate is helpful even in an ICCU where Oxygen Mask covers the face of an elder patient who wants to communicate. Write-Rub-Write is possible with such a slate.
In India the Police
Department has allotted a special helpline dial number 1090 for the women and
seniors that also must be there in the knowledge and records of the elder
member.
(16) Sometimes the money gift by you to an elder one becomes a savings for them to be used in different needs. Either they can get a gift for their grand children or they can use as a donation at their will. Rather than a product gifting them money should be more helpful for them to use as per their own wish.
For an example if a
gentle man gifts me Rs. 500 as a Birthday gift or a Diwali gift which I may
expedite by gifting my grandson in giving him Rs. 201 as a Good Luck token or
as pocket money and then by gifting my brother Rs. 201 during an occasion of
BHAAI DOOJ and the remaining amount can be used to buy a sweet for any family
gathering.
By doing this the
money can be best converted in the token of AFFECTION. Here the money doesn’t
exhibit the material riches but it helps in generating an emotion of ‘yes, I
did my bit’ and that gives the self satisfaction.
It’s some KARMIC CONNECT which bring a soul as a person as our relative. We all are in the same journey then why not to complete it with mutual understandings and a win-win agenda ?
All of these aren’t taught in the schools. It only needs
a loving heart. A loving care of an elderly acts like a silent source of the
bliss. Then there remains no need of any donation or any worship ritual.
If the self respect of an elder will be protected thy
will remain in the happy state of mind and that itself will be the boosting and
healing factor. We all have to see such days, such a single thought will inject
the self discipline and that will trigger all the ideas about how to help the
elders in any circumstances.
This reminds me of the lines by Poet Kalaapi...which
mean...
During the season
of FALL the fresh leaves laugh and the falling ones remind them that the same
will be their end too...
Got it ???
--- Mrs. Manisha Yogesh Vaishnav
#manishavaishnav
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